Things you DON'T miss about him/her
Things you DON'T miss about him/her
I have been broken up with my ex for a year now. Hard to believe. I have been NC for nearly 10 months, now.
I don't have CD anymore, but some here in the early stages, do. In the early stages of healing, it's not unusual to start missing that good guy/girl you once knew. And you start 'forgetting' all the abuse, and bad stuff. Maybe not completely, but it starts to get lost in the background, and then...you start yearning to be with the person again. This can cause you to break NC, when you're in that 'yearning/missing' mode.
So, I thought this could be a helpful thread for you to list...itemize...those things you no longer miss. That truly without this person, you feel better about not having in your life, anymore. Refer back to it, when you get that yearning/missing feeling, so you can see in black and white, that you're really not missing much!
I'll list some things that I remember feeling I didn't miss after a few months after the breakup:
* silent treatment through texts, designed to make me wonder where he disappeared to (we had a long distance relationship)
* his insults on my intelligence
* his inability to laugh at himself
* his accusing me of cheating, or wanting to cheat (meanwhile, this was projection on his part no doubt)
* asking for pictures of me, and then as time went on, and i'd send them, he would act like he didn't receive them. that was such a strange mind game, he played. designed to make me wonder if he didn't like how i looked in the pic by not commenting on them, anymore.
* cracking jokes at my expense
I have more to list, but eh. This is enough. lol I look over this list and am SO GRATEFUL he's gone.
Ok...your turn. I hope it helps you to list these things, and realize that you're better off without this chaos in your life. :)
Unless you have been NARC'D
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I don't miss: The emotional
@ Sparrow...that is chilling,
Great topic
Being Reminded
My List is practically identical...
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btrflygirl
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Everything :)
Good idea! * My N asked for
What is with their "worship my man-parts" stuff!?
Yeah such a turn on when the
alissa
Deidre
This helps keep the REALITY GOGGLES on, D,
spinning
You said it all in a Big Nutshell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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SAME HERE! GREAT POST!
Good one Deidre! I need a
You said it all too!
jaime
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