Crushed by my two sisters narcissism and their control over mother
Crushed by my two sisters narcissism and their control over mother
If anyone has experience with siblings (mine are 7 and 9 years older, I am the youngest) and have had the unfortunate luck of watching them manipulater your parent while they devalue you, I would like to hear how you handled/are handling that. In January I de-freinded my ex narc boyfried of 16 years. The sister took his side devestating me. They've ignored me, left me out of decisions pertaining to my mother and I have since discovered they are BOTH narcissists. This is quite a load to handle - first my charismatic boyfriend abusing me for years on end, the courage I finally found to get rid of him, my reaching out to my flesh and blood only to be dissed and thrown away.
I have stopped contact with them. Suddenly they are interested in emailing, both sent me a birthday gift I'm sure to tell mom how great they are OR how horrible I am for not responding.
I'm losing it. This is consuming me. I don't know what the future of my relationship with my mom is. She never did stand up for me but she didn't throw me away either. I'm so desperate for support I'm taking what crumbs she is feeding me. The sisters have secured her medical power of attorney behind my back and now are working on the financial.
I guess my question is, has anyone ever gone no contact with siblings? This is getting wierd because my mom is asking why I won't talk with them. I've explained how they've hurt me. Anything negative I say about them hurts her. The says they only have bad things to say about me so she won't let them talk about me. I fear eventually they'll convince my mom how awful I am because I won't speak or say thanks for gifts. My mom knows how it hurts me that they have chosen to remain friends with my ex. It's like the twilight zone and I'm afraid of my own mental state. I've pretty much lost my whole family to Narcissism (thanks Daddy Dearest! The original Narc.).
Thanks in advance for any feedback. I've got a letter all ready to go letting them know thier lying to my mom is cruel, that I'm onto them, that there's a snow balls chance in Hell they can fix this and to get some help. I'd love to mail this but don't want to strangle myself.
Thanks so much. I just sent you a private message.
Yes, I've had to do the same to my sister
They key here is to be true
Thanks
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