What was the worst to overcome?
What was the worst to overcome?
If I were ever asked what was the most difficult to overcome having been in a relationship (if that is what you want to call it) with a psychopath I would have to say: Ridding yourself of the illusion he presented to you, not only in the initial beginning but through out the ENTIRE ordeal. Yes I know their mask eventually comes off but there is STILL an illusion that remains that does severe psychological harm to those that have experienced it. That is why they are still with you LONG after you leave them or they discard you.
I have come to see as I have dug out of that dark tunnel that it NEVER was the man that was causing my pain but the DISORDER the man had, even though you may think they are one of the same its really not. You could line up 20 personality disordered individuals and what is indicative of this illness is what does the most damage. Think of all the same behavior traits they have and what it did to us, how many times have we said and thought OMG is your narc my same narc? NO, its just the same disease with the same outcome. He is just a human of flesh and blood that happens to carry the disorder. Maybe I break it down too much but in my healing I no longer say how could this man have done this to me. I think of it on terms that what he did to me was exactly how this DISORDER damages others.
Why do the books say, IT WAS NOT PERSONAL WHAT HE DID TO YOU, he will do and has done the same to everyone he is with, nobody is exempt from the harm they spread in society, the disorder does not work that way. I guess I prefer to view him now as a mentally diseased person and try to remember everyday I fell victim to a person that is inflicted with it.
my worst overcoming...
~~~ Keep Learning & Keep Healing ~~~
~~~~~ The best revenge is to survive and be victorious over it. Nobody can take from you what you don't give them.
oh and to answer the original question,
neverlookback
i know what you are saying
"I should have been more
SHAYNASMOMMY
I came to that conclusion a
almostlydia
nerverlookback
Im wondering....
I agree....the time
The Worst
victimnomore
You couldn't have describe
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God sometimes removes a person from your life for your protection. Don't run after them.
mystwoman My
victimnomore
the wasted time
Believe in yourself!
Terri
THe one thing we can never get back
the moments of truth
I remember on two
This is true, how disordered they are
Great post!
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Acceptance and relinquishing
only one way to go...Forward (tm?)
Betty
Betty - beautifully put
ally2375
Awesome...
Wow! I am always deeply
almostlydia
hi
the hardest thing for me
OMG, yes. I remember those
briseis
giving up, briseis
narcissizednomore