Does she has the power

well my question is I was having NC with my N and one day she called and I just wanted to end it I felt the whole thing was getting childish I wanted to voice my feelings so I answered and my voice was very non emotional I learned that thru my emotions she can get her fix so she goes in to the whole I dont want a relationship and I am getting out the lifestyle meaning being gay, and that our relationship didnt mean nothing to her thats why she didnt try, and then in the same breathe she asked for our sex toys for memories what blew me is why the heck would you want the toys if you dont intend on being in the lifestyle and if the I didnt mean anything to her, and then she started talking about her day like she was my friend like she didnt just break up with me a couple of seconds ago, mid way through her story I cut her off and told her I had to go and hung up, she texted me and said wow thats how its gonna be ok im good, but call me if you still want me part of your son life I didnt say anything back, my question is does she feel empowered that she did that or does she feel defeated cause I cut her off, but when I did get off the phone i cried my eye balls out cause how can someone be so cruel, I invested so much time and love into her for it to mean nothing